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Ban On Sexual Education

I believe that everybody is a kid… and kids have curiosity. Now when your kids asks an awkward question, you can
1) Say NOOOO, talking about such things are banned… you will know all this when you grow up. (if you have handled kids then you will know what it usually leads to)
2) Or Tell him the truth, and while you are doing it: Tell him what a responsible and moral behavior is and what are the consequences.

If you opt for the first, How can your kid know the:
1) What is right and what is wrong.. what is socially accepted moral behavior.
2) What are the medical consequences of error. (STD, AIDS)
3) How it can impact your future? (pregnancy, early marriage, being forced to undertake responsibilities you are not prepared for etc.)
4) What is safe what is not?
5) You need to reinforce in the kids that they have a right to say NO, and not succumb to peer-pressure.
6) What qualifies as sexual harassment by a pedophilic relative?

In the USA, obesity is a tell-tale sign of poverty, but in India its the large number of offsprings… often more than they can take care of. The parents are not able to invest in the child’s future and hence condemning them to perpetual poverty.
1/3 of the Indian population cannot even read and write…. How do you think you can increase awareness in their kids?
In a society where a female is often reduced to a Cooking Machine and a Sex Toy, How do you plan to tell her her rights?
How can you tell a couple that
1) “Agreed that a child is a God’s gift, but a dozen of them is a curse”
2) What are the benefits of a planned pregnancy?

Well Even College educated kids are no better:
I know a newly married couple (husband an engineer, wife a Post Graduate student) who conceived within 2 months of their arranged marriage. Now someone tell me how does she plan to attend school while she is carrying? Unfortunately I cannot blame the couple for not thinking through properly… “after all ignorance is a bliss.”

I have a confession to make: I do not know even even the names of the STD. So if I ever catch one, I am 100% sure it will be too late before it is diagnosed.

Many countries in Africa lost an entire generation due to AIDS… Is Indian Government also preparing a similar stage for population control?

7 replies on “Ban On Sexual Education”

I find this post very timely because I am an American who just came back from my first trip to India. (I found your blog through your comment on mine – thanks!) I was definitely shocked and horrified by the situation in the cities I visited with children living on the streets. While I struggle to understand what I observed through the surface lens of my tourist’s eyes, it did upset me at how so many women were invisible or had the most menial of tasks put before them. And while America certainly has its problems with class and race, I was most struck by the rigid class lines I saw on my trip. I do hope that people in charge heed your warnings.

That said, I also completely fell in love with India and I can’t wait to go back. I was only in Delhi, Agra, and Jaipur, and I know that every region is different, but it was the most intense experience I ever had and I felt very alive amidst the teeming masses of humanity there. Plus, the food is awesome. 🙂

Wow!! Good to know that you enjoyed your trip to my country 🙂 and the spicy food. Your blog is unique… it has a catchy title and a very light and interesting articles.

Yes I agree that women condition is bad and there is lots of room for improvement, but its not that bad also.
We believe that the god is female.
India had a Lady PM, several female head of the state. and even today the real political power lies in the hand of a strong and dedicated woman.

The class mentality of Indians is a real problem… however as education and urbanization is growing, we are making some inroads. But still we have a long way to grow…. But did you notice the integrated housing in India? How the poor and the rich co-exist in the same street?

Certainly, I agree that there are many countries where women are treated far worse. As everywhere else in the world, the poorest women have it the worst. As for class, I noticed a lot of poor people living on the street in front of very wealthy gated communities, but otherwise, I didn’t notice integrated neighborhoods. (In the US, we are much better at hiding our very poor people, which I am not proud of.) To be fair, I was very confused by a lot of what I saw. I wasn’t always sure who was living where and in which buildings.

I often felt like I was not fully understanding what I was seeing. There is so much nuance in the various cultural practices that take place in India, and I wasn’t sure that I fully got all of it. I think it is why I loved it so much. It was just exhilarating and frustrating and awe-inspiring and heart-breaking. The full range of being human.

//As for class, I noticed a lot of poor people living on the street in front of very wealthy gated communities,//
Thats what I am talking about… poor and rich can live together yet feel safe… the city is not zoned into prosperous and poverty areas.

//I often felt like I was not fully understanding what I was seeing. //
Its a country with 5000 years of continuous civilization. so over time lots of rituals and customs have grown and developed. Some relevant, some simply absurd. However if there is any specific practice that intrigued you, do give us a chance to explain. 🙂 There can be no prouder moment then spreading our culture.

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