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Emotion stress: not man enough!

Today I witnessed a boy’s mother complaining to a girl’s mother that her daughter teases her son and had beaten him physically. To a guy from the previous generation, this seems like an unthinkable act. (boy being beaten up by a girl, coming home crying and asking his mother to defend him). I have known a grown-up boy who calls up his girl-friend to drive a bat (the blind flying nocturnal creature) out of the bedroom.
Since ancient time man was supposed to defend his turf, sow his seeds and bring food to the table. They were supposed to be physically strong, loud, fearless/daring (to the extend of being foolish) and be the stand-up guy who protects the people he cares about. Till about 20-30 years ago a guy who cries or even shown anything remotely feminine was ridiculed. In our parents time, being fashion conscious, well groomed, soft-spoken and caring were all traits of gays and metro-sexuals (which were looked down upon). It was OK for a guy not to know how to dance and only eunuchs used to be part of choir boys.
Well in today’s generation such a man will be a social outcast. Right from school aggression and dominance is being suppressed. It is not surprising that today’s men are sissy and girls are shown more masculine traits. By consciously suppressing the genetic traits are making today’s boys be what they are not?
Einstein once said: ‘Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.’
Emotional stress comes from suppressing one’s true feeling, not expressing them, and politely apologizing to a person whose nose you want to break. No wonder the suppressing of natural male aggression has resulted in unhappier men and far more suicides as compared to females.  At this rate the male species will be extinct…. although I am not sure if that is a good thing.

street, Bengaluru South, Karnataka, India

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