This is a extract from the book: Jack Canfield:
If you want to create the life of your dreams, then you are going to
have to take 100% responsibility for your life as well. That means
giving up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all the reasons
why you can’t and why you haven’t up until now, and all your blaming
of outside circumstances. You have to give them all up forever.
You have to take the position that you have always had the power to
make it different, to get it right, to produce the right result. For
whatever reason – ignorance, lack of awareness, fear, needing to be
right, the need to feel safe – you chose not to exercise that power.
Who knows why? It doesn’t matter. The past is the past. All that
matters now is that from this point forward you choose – that’s
right, it’s a choice – you chose to act as if (that’s all that’s
required – to act as if) you are 100% responsible for everything that
does or doesn’t happen to you.
If something doesn’t turn around as planned, you will ask
yourself, “How did I create that? What was I thinking? What were my
beliefs? What did I say or not say? What did I do or not do to create
that result? How did I get the other person to act that way? What do
I need to do differently next time to get the result I want?”
Know this formula : Event (E) + Response (R) = Outcome (O)
The basic idea is that every outcome you experience in life (whether
it is success or failure, wealth or poverty, health or illness,
intimacy or estrangement, joy or frustration) is the result of how
you have responded to an earlier event or events in your life.
If you don’t like the outcomes you are currently getting, there are
two basic choices you can make
1.You can blame the event (E) for your lack of outcome (O)
2.You can instead simply change your responses (R) to the events (E) –
the way things are – until you get the outcomes (O) you want
“IF YOU DON’T LIKE YOUR OUTCOMES CHANGE YOUR RESPONSES”
Also you can hear a 20 minute audio on this book.