– This post is written by our esteemed colleague skabeesh
Was fortunate enough to get a week off from studies to go home. I was really surprised to find myself playing a love-guru to an old friend who recently got engaged (and in trouble, thereafter). Apparently, guys feel playing fast and loose with other girls is an integral part of seeing a gal. The worst part was that the female was giving up…and here is where I came to the rescue :). Quoting myself, “The girl needs to have the upper hand in all relations for it to be successful. Being in love with a guy is no different than training a dog.” I told a surprised her over coffee. “Just as the dog needs to look upon the trainer as an alpha male, so is the same with the guy to the gal. It does not need to be evident; it works fine even if the boy understands it at a subconscious or unconscious level. And if the dog isn’t trained, it is because the trainer has given up. All dogs by nature are supposed to be wild.”
It’s started to brighten up things between the pair, hopefully to this advice. Guys, I too am a guy committed happily to a good gal, and believe me this works.
8 replies on “Thus spoke Love-Guru”
So loveguru.. who are volves and who are sheeps?
i guess i should be diplomatic enough to let that go…
u are committed?? ummm does this knowledge came after commitment or before commitment?? 😀
take a guess why am i happily committed? 😉
Traitor grrrrr! 😡
Good that the relationship got better due to your help.
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In a relationship, irrespective of whether the Man or Woman has problems coping up, shouldn’t they not deal with the problems themselves?
Asking/consulting/discussing with friends/well wishers shows that the person is not close enough with his/her partner to discuss such issues.
Everybody face difficulties. When the issue cannot be dealt with by themselves, the immediate family could be bought in. Bringing in friends would even more concentrate the situation, if your partner knows about you confiding issues to your friend. Worse still would be when the friend is of the opposite gender. Eventhough everybody would refute the above statement, it is a unknown/unsaid/understood truth.
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true Voracious Blog Reader…
well i guess this could be treated as an exception.
all that matters is “all’s well that ends well” 🙂